One of the biggest mistakes I’ve made as a growing photographer is following other photographers’ lead without asking myself whether or not it fits with me, my vision, and my business. I’d see other photographers doing fun/quirky/unique poses or stylizing details in creative ways, and I’d blindly imitate them without pausing to think over whether or not this pose works for MY couples or MY vision. Frankly, I think a lot of that had to do with the fact that I didn’t know what the heck my vision was (still working on that), so not having a filter to push things through was causing a bit of chaos- I was imitating the sort of thing I’d seen other professionals doing without thinking about the fact that I’m not the same person, photographer, or business owner. I think most photographers can probably identify with this sort of thing, especially during the early stages of your business!

It first dawned on me that I was making a mistake when I caught myself taking a photograph that I really and truly couldn’t justify, and honestly, didn’t even like. I was at a gorgeous venue and for some reason decided that photographing the dress outside was the perfect place to shoot, so outside we went. Something didn’t feel right, and it wasn’t until I was culling a few days later that I realized the reason behind my discomfort- I couldn’t explain WHY I’d taken the dress outside.

Before I offend anyone, let me be perfectly clear- I have no qualms whatsoever with photographing dresses outdoors :). I’ve seen some really beautiful images of dresses hanging on tree branches, stone walls, etc- my friend Lauryn does it really well! But for me and my personal style as an artist, I’m discovering more and more than I prefer images that feel as though I may have happened upon the item/couple and photographed them as they are.

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I won’t call myself a photojournalist- TRUE photojournalists like Jonas Peterson don’t move or style anything. If there’s a water bottle on the bed next to the shoes, that’s how they’ll photograph it, Aquafina and all. But I do want the images I capture to feel classic, authentic, organic; I want my brides and grooms to look back on their images and be able to enjoy reminiscing about their memories without the distraction of wondering why their rings were photographed on a complicated background involving their wedding cake, sparklers and a pair of cufflinks. Again, not that there’s anything wrong with that- it’s just not my style. So when I photograph something like a pair of shoes, I’ve learned that the images I’m MOST satisfied with are usually clean, free of lots of extra detail, and reminiscent of an elegant simplicity.

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The same sort of idea applies when I’m posing my brides and grooms. To be clear, I DO pose my clients- I know they’re not professional models and being given direction on how to stand, where to direct their eyes, allows them to relax and trust that I’m going to make them look amazing. When I pose my brides and grooms, I’ve learned to try and filter each and every pose through the same “WHY” filter- why am I posing them this way? Is this how they may stand/sit when they’re alone, without onlookers? If the answer is yes, then fire away! If the answer is no, I reevaluate.

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Sometimes, it’s fun to break the rules. Because I’m my own boss and I can. One of my favorite ring shots EVER is from Brad & Lauren’s wedding- that pink bottle of Coco Mademoiselle was calling to me. I made an artistic decision to bend my own rules and as a result, I captured an image that I will ALWAYS love. There are still elements of that classic simplicity that I love, though- the bottle of perfume is timeless, Lauren’s ring is effortlessly elegant. Would Lauren have naturally set her ring down on top of her perfume bottle like this? Probably not, but this is an instance where I took creative license… because I am, at heart, a creative.

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It doesn’t always work out like that- I’ve put a lot of time in the past into creating these crazy complicated-yet-awesome jewelry shots only to look at them later with distaste- why? Because they look too contrived. Because it feels like I was trying to be someone else. And in those instances I’m reminded to ask myself WHY, and that it’s ok that my images don’t necessarily look like what everyone else is doing, that my photographs don’t involve the trendy poses I see so often on big wedding blogs. Because that call to classic? That’s what makes me ME.

Lessons Learned: asking myself WHY?

May 14, 2013

  1. Elizabeth V says:

    And THAT is why you are awesome… because you are YOU 🙂
    Keep up the great work! I’ve LOVED all of the military weddings lately!

  2. LOVE this post, abby!! such a unique perspective / issue / thought / whathaveyou that i’ve never even heard anyone openly talk about. it’s so awesome to hear / read / see the WHY behind your gorgeous images!

  3. Ashley S says:

    Abby, you nailed this post! I’ve been feeling exactly like this lately. Your words really opened my eyes. Thank you, thank you! Well done as usual 🙂 xo

  4. Abby! Thanks so much for reminding me just to be myself – even if I’m still figuring out who that is :-)!

  5. Lauryn says:

    Great post girl!! Such a hard question that we have to keep asking ourselves, keep honing our vision!!

  6. Rebekah Hoyt says:

    I LOVE that you know who you are as an artist! I’ve always admired this about you 🙂

  7. Jen Allison says:

    Abby, this is precisely why we were thrilled to find you and can’t wait for you to shoot our wedding! Your photos are elegant and beautiful without feeling contrived. They have that amazing quality of being timeless that will ring true 20, 30, 50 years from now. Keep staying true to who you are!

  8. Lauren Beggs says:

    You have such a great eye Abby! I would say majority of the people that see our photos say – “WOW, these are timeless!” So thank you ABBY!!!

  9. Emily Cerasani says:

    I LOVE this post. It reminds me of the pictures of girls in prom dresses on a rusty truck… Why are they there again?

    This has actually really helped me think about my own personal style and how I don’t like the complicated, “messy” set ups… I really like shooting things as they are and telling the story that exists, not writing one of my own. Thank you for this post! 🙂

  10. Erin Schrad says:

    This is a great message… one I needed to hear. I’ve been a photographer for a long time, but I’m only just now trying to define what my style is. I’m sure I have one, but I’m finally trying to learn to recognize it. How I shoot is just how I shoot… I’ve never tried to break it down before. I’m almost having an easier time identifying things I WOULDN’T do… not that there is anything wrong with the way other photographers shoot, but it’s not what I like. I felt for a long time like I wasn’t marketable as a photographer unless I could shoot like so-and-so or give people what seemed to be trendy or current or popular at the time. I’ve considered myself just your run-of-the-mill photographer (and maybe I am!) who likes nice, clean exposures and crisp focus… classic images. Which is hardly a way to “stand out”, or at least that’s how I’ve felt. And I have a hard time seeing my own ideas, compositions, etc as “creative” because it’s just how I see things… but I guess it might be creative to other people. I guess I just have to just keep doing what comes naturally and see where it goes!

  11. Sarah Adams says:

    This is something I’ve never really thought about- but I am SO glad you wrote about it! You have such an awesome perspective on photo business. I’m so inspired by you!

  12. Rosa says:

    Your style is coming together nicely! Clean, simple and timeless 🙂

  13. Jean says:

    Your style is very classic and I love it! Just keep on doing what you do best. Don’t be afraid to try new things and let your creative side continue to grow! Love you!

  14. Rici says:

    Love Love the ring shot Abby! Thank you for sharing!! ~ saluti.

  15. Love this post Abby! Your style and photos are beautiful so definitely keep asking why and follow what you love, and your style!!! Xo

  16. Paulina says:

    love this, Abby!! Thanks for having the courage to remind us all to be ourselves =). The photos are lovely =).

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